Domestic Violence NSW CEO, Moo Baulch, is unhappy with the planned review of the Safe Schools program:

The Safe Schools Coalition has been in the public firing line, with Coalition MP George Christensen being the latest conservative politician attempting to discredit the program, bizarrely likening the anti-bullying initiative to grooming undertaken by sexual predators

This follows Cory Bernadi’s  vitriolic hate speech on Thursday, causing  PM Malcolm Turnbull to crumble under pressure from the extreme right and to order a review of the Safe Schools program.

Baulch ignores ALP senator Joe Bullock’s view that Safe Schools is “terrible” and “should be immediately stopped”. And while Baulch alleges “vitriolic hate speech”, she offers not a single example because she is – as lefties are prone to – grossly exaggerating.

Here’s Christensen’s perfectly sensible allusion:

Outspoken Queensland backbencher George Christensen on Thursday claimed the program recommends pornographic content, sex shops, sex clubs and adult communities to schoolchildren.

He also said it directed students to websites that advise students on sex toys and sadomasochism. He singled out the website of LGBT youth organisation Minus18 for particular criticism.

The website has advice on chest binding, penis tucking and sex toys and links to other sites that promote pornography, group sex and gay bars, he claimed. It also gives children advice on how to cover their tracks by hiding their browser history.

“This material is putting children at risk of being sexualised at an early age,” he said. 

If a man exposed a child to these websites, sex clubs, sex shops and online communities on the internet we would call this a paedophile grooming a victim.

For his part, Bernardi, in questioning the program, says absolutely nothing even remotely close to homophobic hate speech.

Note also that Baulch, who claims misogyny is the root cause of male on female domestic violence, sees a different dynamic at play in LGBTIQ relationships

Hate speech is not acceptable anywhere – in our schools, parliaments or communities. We have strong evidence showing that our young LGBTIQ people are increasingly exposed to horrific violence in their homes and schools and that they are targeted because of their difference. We also know that those experiences impact on young people’s ability to form healthy adult relationships and make safe choices. Gay men and lesbians experience violence in intimate partnerships at similar rates to cisgender heterosexual women, for trans and intersex people international research suggests the rates are even higher.

It’s self-evident that approximately equal rates of violence across gay, lesbian and heterosexual partnerships makes questionable the nomination of misogyny as the cause of heterosexual domestic violence.

Baulch’s bias makes Domestic Violence NSW a dubious provider of effective “specialist domestic and family violence services”.

Finally, a Safe Schools language adjustment video.

Update: The condensed written version of language adjustment:

Gendered Pronouns
She and He are gendered pronouns. She is typically used by Female identifying people, similarly He is typically used by Male identifying people.

Both of these are sometimes used by people who don’t identify as male or female.

Gender Neutral Pronouns
They, Xe and Ey are a few common gender neutral pronouns. They’re basically pronouns that don’t imply ‘male’ or ‘female’. Neutral pronouns are typically used by genderqueer and non-binary identifying people.

There are lots of other gender neutral pronouns. They can take a bit of getting used to, but it’s important to use the right ones. If you’re not sure, politely ask!

Preferred Pronouns
Most people have preferred pronouns. Whether they use she, he, they, or xe, or anything else can depend that person’s gender identity.

For example it’s common for genderqueer people to prefer they, xe, or other gender neutral pronouns.

Similarly a female or male identifying person might prefer her or he pronouns respectively.

Why they’re important

There are lots of reasons it’s important to use the correct pronouns a person prefers, but the simple answer is it can make a person feel pretty shit when you use the wrong ones.

If someone uses different pronouns to what you might expect, they’ve probably thought long and hard about which ones and why.

Misgendering is a term used to describe accidentally or intentionally using incorrect pronouns about or towards a person, essentially using any pronouns than the ones a person asks people to use.

It’s not always easy to come out and tell people you’re trans* or prefer a new set of pronouns, so using the right ones really is a big deal and a pretty awesome thing. 

Do the right thing! Don’t misgender.

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