BOYS WILL BE BOYS, GIRLS WILL BE BITCHES

The patriarchy not only teaches little girls they’re dumb, it’s turning them into pre-primary bitches:

I should be straight here – I am not a helicopter parent. I am the type of parent who will tell their child to just get up again if they fall, or to just keep trying if the puzzle they are doing is too hard.

And that was my attitude when my daughter came home in the second week of school and said one of her friends, Katie, told her to go away and not talk to her again.

 “Oh, don’t worry about it,” I told her. “Sometimes you can be in a bad mood and say mean things but you don’t mean them. She’ll be your friend again tomorrow, you’ll see.”

But clearly, Katie was going to be in a bad mood for long time, because the mean comments continued. She hated my daughter, she was not allowed to talk, she needed to wear tights if she was going to sit with them.

Not unlike a metastasising cancer, patriarchy has spread from mainstream society into our kindergartens, teaching both boys and girls to hate females:

This stuff happens. Kids are kids, right? These are just six-year-old kids – they speak their mind, hurt your feelings and you just have to brush yourself off. We all need to learn resilience!

And that is what I kept telling myself when my daughter burst into tears on the way home from school. And when she’d say she had a stomach ache on the way to school and asked me if she’d have any friends that day. And then there was the day I went to visit my daughter at an afternoon sports day and she’d told me how two “friends” had thrown mud at her and laughed at her.

Now I started to ask other mums for advice. And it’s amazing what you hear once you start talking about this issue. The daughter of one close friend had been part of a secret girl gang at school – yes, in kindy – and they had ostracised and taunted a girl they considered a “dobber.” Where on earth does a six-year-old learn to behave in that way, to be so cuttingly cruel?

Controller of all, patriarchy is the ultimate teacher.

Then again, maybe female-on-female aggression is innate, which you’ll know all too well if  you’ve worked in a mixed sex, open office where you would have frequently seen females being bitches.

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